When it comes down to self motivation, is your life full of ups and downs? If you answered yes, you’re not alone.
That’s why it’s so important to have some self motivation tips or hacks up your sleeve. I use them every day.
Self motivation is really about motivating ourselves for the benefit of ourselves. Too redundant?
Although this may seem simple to do, it’s quite a challenge.
It’s easier to be motivated by someone else, usually someone that inspires us, a mentor, or a friend. But at the end of the day, it’s up to us to do the internal work.
With the amount of information spreading across the internet nowadays, it’s easy to find lists of self motivation quotes or inspirational quotes. We may get lost amid all these posts that reassure us everything is ok with our life.
Considering that the collective global attention span is narrowing due to the amount of information we consume, when we read motivational quotes or watch a motivational video, we may feel relieved and empowered for a while.
But it usually doesn’t last long.
A moment later or a day after, a new obstacle comes down the pike, and your motivation plummets.
And you didn’t even see it coming.
To be self motivated, you have to be prepared. While someone else’s message can be inspiring and crucial to get us on track, the real work is inside of us.
And if you want long-lasting motivation, no matter what, you have to work on yourself.
Let’s take a moment to breathe in and out profoundly.
Now onto the self motivation tips!
When you wake up in the morning, don’t you feel that the possibilities are endless after a good night’s sleep? No matter what you did the previous day, this new day is always fresh and always good to start something new (or to continue where you left off).
Don’t fall into the trap of saying, “I’m too old for this,” or “I have no time.” If you want something, you’ll find a way to do it.
And the beginning of a new day is here to remind us of that. There’s a unique possibility to start that thing you always wanted to start but never did.
As the morning brings the afternoon, the spirit starts to change. And at night, we might feel frustrated (again!) because we didn’t accomplish what we wanted to.
And if we’re not careful, our motivation goes down the drain.
The beauty is that the next day is always full of surprises. It’s fresh and full of possibilities (again!).
So how do we avoid this spirited motivation that’s coming back and forth?
It’s hard work to motivate ourselves when things look ugly from the outside. It can be a lifetime of work. But that’s ok because that’s part of our evolution as beings that came here to manifest our most profound desires.
Whenever things don’t look the way you want them to, take a nap if you can. After you wake up, it’s my promise to you that you’ll feel much better.
And this is key!
Like Abraham Hicks says:
“Feeling good is the work. Feel good, and watch what happens.”
If you can‘t take a nap, just pause and meditate.
Meditation… I know people who say they can’t meditate because their minds are always flying around with some form of constant inner chatter, concepts, images, memories, anxieties, you name it.
If you can’t control the mind, the mind controls you.
You don’t have to sit cross-legged, eyes shut, and your hands in some mudra position to meditate. It’s enough to stop anything that you’re doing and turn yourself inwards. Try to feel your body, your breathing, your heartbeat. See your thoughts arising and going, and the emotions they bring with them.
You’ll soon discover that you are watching your thoughts from outside. In other words, you are not your thoughts.
In time, you’ll be able to decrease the constant chatter and be in a state of alertness, where anything that arises in your mind doesn’t bother you anymore. You simply watch it come and go. No attachment.
This way, it’s easier to sense our intuition and follow it because intuition doesn’t come through words but through a deep sensation or feeling.
We’ll know if we are doing what we want to or not when we pause and go inwards to listen to our intuition.
After waking up in the morning, I do is exercise, followed by a 10-15 minutes meditation. I find it essential to start my day in the right mood, not because I wake up stressed or feel anxious, but because it aligns me with my inner truth, my core values. And it helps me stay focused and calm in whatever it is that I’ll be doing next.
Successful people devote their morning time before starting their workday to some form of motivational routine. Tony Robbins defines his 10-minute form of meditation as “the act of taking time to adjust your thought and emotions, so you can live your life in peak state.”
Don’t worry if you think you can’t do it. Just try, and with practice, you won’t even know that you’re doing it.
If you ever tried to build a giant puzzle with, let’s say, 3000 pieces (I did several of them back in my teens), you might get overwhelmed at the beginning. But if you make sections out of it, you’ll find it much easier to start.
This is also true for everything else.
Ultimately, the most complex machines are made with lots and lots of the most simple things.
Whenever I feel overwhelmed with the number of things I want to do, I focus on one thing at a time. This makes me more confident in what I’m doing because I’m not distracted.
When Warren Buffett was asked about the most crucial factor in getting to where he’s gotten in life, he immediately replied, “Focus.”
Some people are more successful than others simply because they are much better at focusing their mental resources.
When you segment your work and commit to it entirely focused, you accomplish many little victories that soon will reach the whole, without you even noticing it. Say goodbye to anxiety!
Focus requires practice, just like meditation. We could say that meditation can be a form of focus, a focus on your true self. The more you meditate, the easier it will be to focus because you’ll have greater control over your mind.
To be self motivated, you have to develop self-awareness and self-control, and the ability to focus on yourself or on the task you’re working on is essential.
Remembering our goals always comes in handy because it puts us on the right track again if we ever derail ourselves.
The situation may not look pretty, but the vision of our goals can be a strong motivation for us to keep going.
Write your goal on the wall or on a piece of paper (every day if you must). And whenever you feel like quitting, just read it again and again.
Remember that every day is a new day, and there are always new opportunities to move us forward.
Now, it’s no use thinking of our goals, assuming we won’t make it that far. The truth is, it doesn’t matter if we make it or not. What matters is that it is there, like a shiny star, always inspiring and motivating us.
That’s what keeps us going. That’s what makes us get out of bed in the morning.
Every great leader knows that the vision and understanding of the goal are potent tools for self motivation.
Thoughts create our reality, whether we like it or not.
If we have the will to motivate ourselves, we need to stay focused on what we want. Too much distraction and negative thoughts derail us from our path of achieving our goals. This is common sense.
When you feel you’re starting to doubt yourself, and some negative thoughts come to procrastinate you, if you don’t have the strong mental focus to stay on track, it’s better to pause and meditate, take a break, or even go for a walk.
Thinking about what we don’t want just attracts more of it to our lives.
This is science. Let me briefly explain.
In quantum physics, scientists say that everything is energy. Therefore, everything is in a state of vibration. If you put two acoustic guitars equally tuned side by side and pluck one string of one guitar, the same string in the other will resonate, and you’ll hear it. I made this experiment myself, and it’s incredible to listen to the resonance.
So, if everything vibrates, our thoughts and words also vibrate. Depending on what you’re vibrating, you attract the same vibration in different forms. As an example, if you don’t have money, and you’re always thinking about that with negative emotions attached to it, you’re attracting the reality of “lack of money.” And that’s what you’ll have.
That’s why it’s essential to self motivate us right in the morning when we wake up, thinking about what we want, envisioning that for ourselves.
We need to attract what we want in our lives. And that is achieved by thinking about what one wants.
You’ve probably heard already that the biggest obstacle to our progress is ourselves. And what do we want to do with constraints? Throw them out of the window. But we can’t do that to ourselves.
We have to nourish and be kind to ourselves. Know when it’s time to stop and take a break. Be flexible, and also don’t take yourself too seriously. Things can change at any moment.
As I mentioned earlier, real, long-lasting motivation is self motivation. It has to come from inside of us.
When there’s no one to rely on, we have to be the ones to inspire us and motivate us. Indulge yourself in things that make you feel good so that the feeling can lift you and relieve some or any of the stress you might be feeling.
We learn that taking too much care of ourselves may seem selfish, but I think quite the opposite. When you take care of yourself, when you love yourself, you make yourself feel good and happy. Imagine everybody on the planet feeling good and happy. What a bliss it would be!
But if it’s to the detriment of another person, that’s another story.
What good can you bring to the world if you’re not a self motivated and happy person anyway?
When you look for inspiration, you look for someone with those qualities.
Self motivation is like being nourished and cared for by the future and successful you. You know your goal and your potential, which reassures you everything’s ok, and things can always get better and better.
The most successful people fail most often.
Unless you take risks and fail over and over again, learning with each obstacle, you’ll never get to a point to find something that sticks over time.
Nothing is permanent, of course, but the more you fail, the more likely you will succeed because each failure is a lesson. And the more you learn, the more you can turn something not so great into something extraordinary.
Basically, in a good story, before the hero succeeds, he goes through a lot. He often fails, and when he thinks the game is over, the opportunity arises, and he gets back on track to success.
Know that famous quote by Alfred Pennyworth, Batman’s housekeeper?
“Why do we fall, sir? So that we can learn to pick ourselves up.”
It’s easy to find excuses for why we can’t just keep working on a task to get it right. Any little obstacle is an excuse, a failure, but if we look closely, we see the underlying lesson, and if there’s enough motivation, we proceed forward.
I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s worth the effort.
Keep learning, keep researching, keep motivating yourself, surround yourself with positive and inspiring people, and success will be just a matter of focus.